{"id":1467,"date":"2021-07-22T11:57:24","date_gmt":"2021-07-22T11:57:24","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/?p=1467"},"modified":"2021-07-22T11:57:24","modified_gmt":"2021-07-22T11:57:24","slug":"when-the-ancestors-are-too-close","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/?p=1467","title":{"rendered":"When the Ancestors are too Close"},"content":{"rendered":"

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Today is the fifth anniversary of my mother\u2019s death. Anniversary sounds like it could be a day of celebration, \u201cday of remembrance\u201d is a more appropriate expression perhaps, but anniversary, commemoration, I guess those words work too. The bottom line is she died, and it wasn\u2019t until then that I truly saw her as a human being with a life; with hopes, and dreams, fears, foibles, and shortfalls beyond those in her role as mother, my mother, my sisters\u2019 mother, a person in her own right, separate from me, even though obviously there is probably no greater connection than that of a mother and child.
\nI don\u2019t particularly like going to the cemetery where she\u2019s buried, that\u2019s one of the advantages of cremation, burial at sea, or a family plot I suppose. I enjoy visiting my grandparents, aunts, and uncles in the shady cemeteries where they rest, but my mother? She\u2019s an ancestor who still feels too close to me. I\u2019d rather remember her when I catch a glimpse of her in one of my expressions, remembering one of her sayings (when she was livid with anger she\u2019d say \u201cI\u2019m on the warpath!\u201d), or when her face would light up when a kid or grandkid visited her. How about you? If you\u2019ve lost a parent, how do you feel about visiting their grave? I love cemeteries for many reasons, I just don\u2019t love my mother\u2019s.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

Today is the fifth anniversary of my mother\u2019s death. Anniversary sounds like it could be a day of celebration, \u201cday of remembrance\u201d is a more appropriate expression perhaps, but anniversary, commemoration, I guess those words work too. The bottom line is she died, and it wasn\u2019t until then that I truly saw her as a … Continue reading “When the Ancestors are too Close”<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"footnotes":""},"categories":[631],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1467","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-art"],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1467","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1467"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1467\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1468,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1467\/revisions\/1468"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1467"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1467"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.artfoodsoul.com\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1467"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}